I feel like a lousy, horrible feminist for admitting this… but I suffer from feminist fatigue. I’m a proud feminist who will fight to the death for gender equality, but sometimes.. when I crack open my laptop… I’m filled with anxiety and dread. How many horrible comments am I going to see on a Youtube video? Am I really ready to face the trolls in the dungeon?
To put it simply: I just get tired. Tired of fighting. Tired of finding out 3 new superhero featuring male leads are being created when it took ages for studios to approve a Wonder Woman film. Tired of seeing a woman be bullied or doxxed online because she spoke her mind about the lack of playable female characters in video games. I’m riddled with guilt for feeling so tired all of the time.
How do you cope when you suffer from feminist fatigue? Here are a few ideas:
1.) Step Back, Take A Breath, Disconnect
Stop. Disconnect. Whether it’s for an afternoon, an entire day, or even an entire week, put down the internet and step away from your screen. Every now and then, a digital detox is incredibly necessary. Let’s be real: Gender inequality permeates almost every aspects of our society; you’re not going to be able to disconnect yourself from it completely. But taking time to disconnect from the anonymity from the internet will do you some good.
2.) Return To Your Roots
What, exactly, do you do after you disconnect? Read. Return to the roots of feminism and find inspiration. Don’t get me wrong – I believe our current struggles are just as important as the struggles encountered by those in the first wave of feminism. However, re-reading Mary Wollstonecraft’s A Vindication of the Rights of Women or watching Iron Jawed Angels provides inspiration that knows no bounds.
3.) Celebrate Modern Women – Laugh
As much as I love returning to the roots of feminism, I find nothing more liberating than indulging in a laugh. Comedy has always been a men’s club of sorts. Take a moment to support the women who fought their way up the ranks to be laughed at… indulge in some fun!
#Bossypant by Tina Fey
Yes, Please! by Amy Poehler
One More Time by Carol Burnett
Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me? And Other Concerns by Mindy Kaling
Happy Accidents by Jane Lynch
I Feel Bad About My Neck by Nora Ephron
4.) Watch Some Badass Babes
As a Netflix junkie, I can’t tell you how many times a good tv show starring a great female lead has rejuvenated my sensibilities.
5.) Return With Gusto
Once you’ve taken time to step back, indulged in some historic and comedic reading, and watched badass babes in action… return with gusto to your usual forums and comment boards. Don’t feed the trolls. Be your badass, feminist self.